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What The F*** Is Ego?






That is a loaded question. It is also one of the most asked questions I get. Truly. So where does one even start? To be honest, the ego is not just one thing. It is comprised of multiple things that is unique to each individual. The question of "what is ego" really doesn't have a super simple answer... it is actually pretty deep and convoluted.


Upon hearing the word ego, most people conjure up an image of a smug asshole who thinks too highly of himself. Well, the ego in that sense is actually just a very small part of the picture. The truth is, we spend our entire life building up our ego - through various types of conditioning, belief systems, inner child wounds and projections.


So what? Why is ego so important?


This is a bit easier to answer. The ego plays multiple roles in our lives- it keeps us safe from harm, it keeps us comfortable. It also keeps us stuck. It keeps us playing small and living in a fear based reality. What do I mean by that? Let's explore a scenario shall we?


Let's say, one of your greatest dreams is to perform in front of a large group of people. In whatever capacity- be it in your own YouTube video, a public speaking event, singing in a concert or performing a play.... and you can feel this dream with every fibre of your being! So what holds you back? Why not just go for it? Because that little voice in your head tells you that you're not good enough... people will laugh at you or judge you. It is the fear of rejection and judgement that keeps you from going towards the dream. The "who are you to think you can do that" comes in and ultimately keeps you paralyzed. Convincing you the life you have is fine and people would be lucky to be in your shoes. Also, the fear of failure comes and rears its ugly head too, what if you fail? What would people think? My question to you is, why does it matter what other people think? Why is outside validation more important than living your dreams- fail or no fail? Do you see what I'm getting at here?


The ego convinces us to stay small- ultimately unfulfilled and not 100 percent happy out of fear of judgment, failure and what other people might think. Now if you've worked with me before or listen to my podcast or watch my youtube video readings then you know how I feel about fear.... what is fear?


False.

Evidence.

Appearing.

Real.


So, if we are able to free ourselves from underlying fear, then really the ego doesn't have a toolkit to keep us stuck.... uncomfortably uncomfortable. What if we were to just forget fear and fly? What if we redefine fear?


Fight.

Ego.

And.

Rise.


What was your first reaction when you read that last sentence? Did you feel empowered? Or was the first thing you thought "Yeah right"? That my friend, is the ego talking. What if I told you, the only thing that truly holds you back is you? What is your reaction to that? Did you feel strongly triggered? Sure there are things that are beyond our control.... doesn't mean that you can't be who you want to be, or react in a different way! It's all about how you choose to approach it.